Come join us for Integral Parenting presentation and workshop with international leaders in Integral Developmental Psychology Dr. Terri O'Fallon PhD, and Kim Barta M.A.

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As children grow, so too must our parenting. This workshop will help you understand the fundamental passions driving your child’s behavior and spirit. As parents we want the most beautiful relationship possible with our children. As parents we want our children to reach their fullest potential.

 

By understanding the underlying developmental patterns that drive our children’s behavior we can make more effective, efficient life supporting interactions throughout their life span. Interactions that will:

• Easily manage difficult behaviors

• Develop healthy relationships with their parents and peers

• Help them fulfill their full potential naturally and with flow

 

While children have their developmental drives and passions, so too do we as parents and as people. Understanding our own developmental level helps us understand our own drives and passions. By understanding these often hidden drives and passions we can create a parenting experience with our children that helps us:

• Feel fulfilled as a parent and as a person

• Unfold our own full potential

• Discover our own deepest most authentic self

 

A parent’s preferred parenting style is informed by their own developmental level, and it is not uncommon for that style to be incompatible with what a child needs at their developmental level. In addition, our developmental level may be different from our co-parents developmental level. As a result, in any family we often have 2, 3 or more developmental level drives occurring at any given moment. These underlying developmental drives are often the source of continued conflict and discomfort within the family system.

 

By understanding the hidden developmental drives and passions of each person in the family we can:

• Create better family dynamics

• Reduce parental conflict

• increase family flow

 

As we grow, we often inhabit multiple developmental levels. When we get stressed we may revert to earlier developmental levels and watch our behaviors change in sometimes dramatic ways. We can see this in our children, in our co-parent and in our selves. By observing the shifting behaviors of the members of the family we can adjust the way we relate with them that addresses the developmental needs in the moment. This makes the shifting behaviors with our children and our co-parents easier to understand and respond with effective ways of relating that will:

• Prevent conflicts befog they happen

• Break old destructive family patterns

• Turn crisis into positive bonding experiences

 

This workshop features the STAGES developmental model. With STAGES it is possible to pin point a developmental level that our child, our co-parent and ourselves are living from in the moment, simply by asking three questions. These 3 questions give us the answers we need to lead one to the presenting level of development. With this kind of instant recognition in the moment, A parent can observe the peaks and valleys of their child’s development and learn to adjust their parenting skills to the specific needs of the child in the moment. 

 

Participants can expect some practical ways to recognize, practice and utilize knowledge of the child and parent’s developmental patterns, and to select appropriate parenting practices for the child with agility as the child dances between different levels of development in their growing up process.  Throughout, questions, critiques, speculations and discussions for use and practice will be welcomed.

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Workshop Outline

 

Part One-Introduction to Stages

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Introduction: Developmental parenting:

1. Children develop through stages

2. Parents develop through stages

3. How do parental development and child development intersect? 

Three questions you can ask that pinpoint the levels of development of child and of you as a parent. 

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Part Two

 

I. The Concrete Tier: STAGES represented by the concrete sub-quadrants 

 

A. The first person perspective stages with states: infant and toddler stages

1. Contours of the early concrete self and 

a. Clear descriptions of these two stages and their patterns. 

2. Late first person self and states: birth of the subtle states

a. Practical applications of parenting at these levels

 

B. The second person perspective stages with states: grade school, through high school

1. Early second person: birth of the collective; maturing subtle states and social autopsies (talking “with”)

a. Practical applications in parenting

2. Late second person: concrete projection and introjections in collectives 

a. Practical applications in parenting

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II. The Subtle tier: STAGES represented in the subtle sub-quadrants 

A. Parenting styles of the Expert: The third person perspective, stage and    states

1. The contours of the early third person subtle self: marinating in the subtle: 

a. Practical applications of this parenting style to children stages.

2.  Late third person self and states: birth of awareness of the subtle states

a. Practical applications of this parenting style to child development.

B. The fourth person perspective stages with states

1. Early fourth person: birth of the subtle collective: context aware

a. Practical applications of this parenting style to child development

2.  Late fourth person: subtle projection and introjections in collectives

a. Practical applications of this parenting style to child development

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III. Summary, questions, speculations, suggestions and conversation

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